Terri Cole
Boundaries, Self-Reflection, & Sustainable Change
INTRODUCING TERRI COLE:
In today’s episode, Sam welcomes licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert, Terri Cole. For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 250,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show.
In this episode, Sam and Terri talk about the importance of understanding and setting boundaries in our work lives, personal lives, social media consumption and relationships. They talk about reflecting and assessing your own side of the street before passing judgment on others. Finally, Terri provides an actionable challenge to Sam and the I Have Cool Friends audience and shares a special giveaway too.
THIS EPISODE FEATURES INSIGHTS ON BOUNDARIES, EMPOWERMENT & INTERNAL REFLECTION:
Terri speaks to the work she does as a psychotherapist and relationship expert, trends she’s seen coming out of the global pandemic and the book she wrote as a result
Sam and Terri talk all about boundaries in work, life and relationships
Terri provides actionable steps we all can take to address our boundary problems
Stopping the auto ‘Yes’ and the correct way to say ‘No’
Terri reflects on the biggest work boundary issues she’s noticed
Sam and Terri discuss social media boundaries and Terri provides an activity for both Sam and her audience to follow for one week
Sam thanks Terri for joining the show and let’s listeners know where they can follow her
WHAT DID TERRI SAY?
“I’ve really moved from the one-on-one thing to courses because my desire is to reach more people, make it accessible. Not everybody can go to therapy, but everybody can learn. So I built courses where I’m a damn good GPS to get you where you need to go to then make the changes you need to make.”
“We [women] were raised and praised to be self-abandoning co-dependents. We really were. And so there’s a lot of unlearning and a questioning of the things that we’ve just accepted.”
“Why is it good to be ‘easy-breezy’ all the time or at all? I don’t know, but it is valued. So, we need to stop the auto ‘Yes.’”
“It doesn’t matter what their intention is. They don’t need to have ill intent for their behavior to be bull. And so it’s our job to draw the boundary and set the limit.”
“You need hardcore delineation between when work time ends and life begins.”
“Between waking and sleeping is this beautiful place where it’s much easier to meditate. And it’s so much easier to do it in a guided way, especially if you’re a beginner.”
“Here’s the thing. You are the common denominator in your life. So, it’s impossible for it to be other people. It’s not a blame thing. It’s an amazing thing because you can become empowered.”